Category: Living & Relationships

Imagine where all your age mates are urging you to do something that’s bad, something you don’t wonna do. What will you do? Will you give in and do it or will just walk away? So then what is Peer pressure? This is simply a desire to do things which you don’t like doing but you give in and do it because you want to fit-in and be accepted by others.

Are you the type that always allow others your peers in this case to make decisions for you? Or do you have the courage to stand up for your convictions? Do you find it hard to stand up for what you know is right? Well the truth is no, matter what you can! Win your peers, this post will teach you practical things that can help you in this issue.

The key is to see the pressure coming and decide in advance how you will respond to it. Here is four steps that will help you deal with it

Steps to deal with pressure

1. Know what’s coming : Often, you can see trouble in advance. for instance you maybe walking along the school compound and see a group of your schoolmates up ahead, and they’re smøking. How likely is it that they’ll offer you a cigarettè? By anticipating the problem, you’ll be ready either to avoid it or to confront it.

2. Ynu need to Think:You need motivation, a strong motivation that when you think about it you’ll refrain from giving in. You might ask yourself, “How will I feel in the long run if I go along with my peers ideas ?” True, you might gain temporary approval of your peers. But in the long run you will have to live with the consequences.

3. Make your mind up: Now is really when you have to decide to do what your peers are doing or not, for example you have to decide to smoke with your peers or not. Decide what you’ll do in advance.

4. Finally just Act : You might think this is the hardest part. It’s not! Infact it’s very easy just close your eyes and with your decision. If you’ve already thought about the consequences and made up your mind, stating your position can be surprisingly easy and rewarding. you don’t have to give your peers a lecture about why you won’t join them. A simple but firm NO may suffice.

The key here is to respond promptly and with conviction. If you do you might be suprised how quickly your peers will back off and stop harassing you. But sometimes they may mock you, rather than feeling bad or emotionally hurt. Recognize this sort of taunt for what it is pure peer pressure. In this situation you are expected to respond, as walking away from such confrotation won’t make it go away. How then can you respond? Here are three (3) options for you

How to respond to peer pressure without walking away

You could absorb the taunt for example you could say
You,re right, I am scared! Then briefly state your reason.
You could deflect the pressure by stating your position, while not making an issue over it.
You could return the pressure. How? State your reason for refusing then appeal to your peer’s intellect. For example you could say I thought you were too smart to smoke!.

Many thanks to jw.org

For some boys it’s easy to ask a girl out and pick her on a date, some even brag with it, while some others find it difficult to even talk to a girl talk more of asking her out. To some to get a girl on a date on first try is not possible they think it can’t be done.

The goodnews! You can now ask any girl out and be successful, with this quick and actionable tips it’s now easy.

Get her on first try tips

1. Be confident As a guy who wants a girl you have to be confident, have the mind-set that you’ll get her, with that confidence your self-esteem will be boasted, imagine when you think and believe yourself that “everything is possible”.
2. Don’t be overconfident You need to have confidence but don’t over-do it, overconfident will make you fail as soon as you’ve started. A girl wants to see a boy who is strong-willed, who can’t be pushed about but has understanding, overconfident can rob you of that, so you see you need to balance it.
3. Dressing And Grooming Dressing speaks volume of the type of person you are, even before you make your move the girl have already assessed you. Dressing and Grooming works hand in hand, girls love guys who are cute and dress properly but they also hate those who are overdressed, you don’t have to be overly handsome to attract a girl, dress and groom smartly, you’ll be cute if your are European give your hair a nice touch, for Africans comb your hairs if you’re spotting an Afro.
4. Be bold When you see a girl and she sees you, you two make eye contact what happens next is predictable she frowns and turns her face away. This is when boldness comes in you need to be bold to still walk up to her and introduce yourself, if you give up then you won’t get any other girl because many girls are bound to do that.
4. Strike a balance between good judgement and boldness It good to be bold we know, but is it good to be too bold? No over boldness can scare the girl away. If you noticed that the girl don’t want you or your attention at that moment then forget her for the moment, by doing that you’d be showing understanding because you don’t know why she didn’t give you attention back then. By doing that also you’ll open a good door when next you meet her.

This tips will help you get any girl you want, is it not working for you? Tweak it to your circumstances that’s where Intelligence comes in. Oh! I didn’t put intelligence? Now am putting it.

Note: Although girls and boys were used in this post, ladies, men, and women can also be substituted were appropriate, the concept applies to all humans in or wants to start relationships.