As a Student going to school you might have found it hard speaking with your parents, but after reading this post in an under-tone you wont find talking to your parents difficult again. When you were younger, your parents were probably the first ones you ran to for advice. You told them any news, big or small. You freely expressed your thoughts and feelings, and you had confidence in their advice. Now, though, you might feel that your parents just can’t relate to you anymore. ” One evening during our school break I began to cry and pour out my feelings, ” says a student named Eve. ” My parents listened, but they didn’t seem to understand.” What was the result? ” I just went to my bedroom and cried some more!” she concludes. On the other hand, sometimes you might prefer not to open up to your parents. Some have talked to their parents about many subjects, yet they held back from telling them all. Is it wrong to keep some thoughts to yourself? Not necessarily as long as you’re not being deceitful. Nevertheless, whether your parents don’t seem to understand you or you are holding back, one thing is certain: You need to talk to your parents and they need to hear from you. KEEP ON TALKING! In some ways, communicating with your parents is like driving a car. If you encounter a roadblock, you don’t give up you simply find another route. Consider two instances. 1. You need to talk, but your parents don’t seem to be listening. ” I find it difficult to communicate with my father, ” says a student named Leah. ”Sometimes I’II talk to him for a while and then he’II say, ‘I m sorry, were you speaking to me? QUESTION: What if Leah really needs to discuss a problem? She has at least three options. Option A. Yell at her dad. Leah screams: ” come on, this is important! Listen! Option B. Stop talking to her dad. Leah simply gives up trying to talk about her problem. Option C. Wait for a better time and bring up the subject again. Leah speaks with her dad face to face later, or she writes him a letter about her problem. Which option do yo think Leah should choose? Which one should you choose? Let’s explore each option to see where it would likely lead. The student named Leah his dad is distracted and thus unaware of her frustration. So if Leah chooses Option A, her screaming might seem to come out of nowhere. This option probably won’t make Leah’s dad more receptive to her words, and it won’t show respect and honor for him. So this option leads to a no win situation. While Option B may be the easiet course to take, it’s not the wisest. Why? Because ” there is a frustrating of plans where there is no confidential talk.” To deal successfully with her problems, Leah needs to talk to her dad and if he’s going to be of any help, he needs to know what’s going on in her life. Ceasing to talk accomplishes neither. With Option C, however, Leah doesn’t let a roadblock become a dead end. Rather, she tries to discuss the subject another time. And if the student chooses to write her dad a letter, leah might feel better right away. Writing the letter may also help her to formulate exactly what she wants to say. Though with many technological gadget like cell phones, letter writing is now gradually becoming diminishing, if you need to talk you have to write it, when he reads the letter, he will learn what you are trying to tell him, which may help him to understand your plight better. Option C thus benefits both Leah and her dad. 2. Your parents want to talk, but you’d rather not. ”There’s nothing worse than being hit with questions immediately after a hard day at school, ” says another student name Micheal. ” I just want to forget about school, but right away my parents start asking: ‘ How was your day? Were there any problems?” No doubt Micheal’s parents ask such questions with the best of intentions. Still, he laments, ” It’s hard to talk about school when I’m tired and stressed. QUESTION: What can Micheal do in this situation? As with the previous example, she has at least three options. Option A. Refuse to talk. Micheal says: ” please, just leave me alone. I don’t want to talk right now! Option B. Go ahead and talk. Despite feelings stressed, Micheal begrudgingly answers her parents’ questions. Option C. Delay the ”school” talk but keep conversation going on another topic. Micheal suggests that they discuss school at another time, when he knows that he’II be in a better frame of mind. What Option would will choose, will it Option A or Option B or Option c? Option C should be chosen why? This option likely has the best chance of success because they would be looking out for one another’s interests, not just for their own. In summary? Choose your words carefully. Deliver them in a respectful tone of voice. Think of your parents as your allies, not your enemies. And let’s face it You need all the allies you can get if you are to cope with the challenges you have to deal with.
